I made this at craft night this weekend. Get it (the button reference)? I am SUCH a dork.
The other girls were crocheting, quilting and cross-stitching. Meanwhile I was drawing sex positions and making clitoral art in between snacking on hummus and baba ganoush.
Should you be friends with your exes? I know, I know… it depends. But what does it depend on?
Their qualities as a human being?
Whether you would be friends with them right now… if you met them today for the very first time?
If your present partner can handle your relationship?
How and/or why you and your ex ended things?
How many exes you have kept on as friends?
Whether you have children together?
Whether you can stand your ex’s new partner?
Whether you still have feelings for each other?
Probably a bit of each of these. And sometimes one of these may outweigh all of the others. For example, maybe your ex is fabulous and he or she has great qualities, but if your current partner - who you value and are committed to and are certain you want to be with - cannot comfortably handle your friendship with your ex, then maybe the friendship has to go. Or if your feelings may threaten either your friendship with the ex OR your relationship with your current partner (or your ability to move on to a new partner one day), then maybe that is a good reason to not hold on to a friendship with an ex. Especially if it really isn’t a friendship anymore but more like an acquaintance-ship… or something you are holding on to but unsure why. Or maybe you know deep down it’s just because you don’t have closure… or you have some notion that one "should" keep exes in one’s life.
I think that often when people say that they want to be friends with their ex, the reality is that they simply want to be friendly (not "friends") with their ex. There are some instances where exes can be quite good friends who talk often, share each other’s lives, and you turn to each other for support and advice. It seems to me that those cases are rare and more often people simply strive to be on decent enough terms.
There are a lot of good reasons on both sides of the fence. What have your experiences been like? How have you made these decisions? It’s never easy, but I’d love to hear your stories if you’re willing to share either in the comments section or by sending me an email (DrDebby@mysexprofessor.com).
For more on this topic, check out this article from Jezebel.
That makes me laugh. This invite dropped into my mailbox today…I used to be embarrassed to see my picture on invitations, but I’m okay with it now.
If you’re in the Chicago area, please come to the First Friday event this week and hang out with me. We’ll have fun AND there will be some very cool give-a-ways.
This is sad. A woman died after her husband used an electrical cord as part of their sex play. Please do NOT try this at home. This is very, very dangerous. Read the full article here.
And in the mean time, if you want to SAFELY spice up your sex life with toys, check out the toys from Good Vibrations, Pure Romance, Early to Bed, Tulip, g Boutique and other legit shops.
At least, that’s a slogan being used to promote condom use in Brazil, where the government and health care workers are urging safer sex at Carnival.
From a reader (thanks, M.): bunnies go wild for Food Network’s Giada De Laurentiis.
The frenulum is the little triangular area on the underside of the penis, toward the glans (head) of the penis. We have other frenulums on our body too - if you look in the mirrior and lift up your tongue, you will see a triangular area there which is the frenulum of your tongue. If you’re a guy and you go to a piercing studio and say that you’d like your frenulum pierced, they will probably ask "which one?"
The frenulum is a sensitive part of the penis for many men. If you’re looking to play around with your fellatio technique, consider the occasional tongue flick, suck or warm air directed to this area. Men, if you’re playing with vibration on your own, this also might be an area where you’d enjoy a little buzz either from your own toy or from borrowing your partner’s (though you should always clean sex toys before and after each use, and you might put a condom over the sex toy to minimize the risk of harboring bacteria in the often-porous surfaces of toys).
Now go out and have fun with the frenulum. That’s what it’s there for! Well, sort of.
Looks like Detroit Mayor Kwame Kipatrick and his chief of staff, Christine Beatty, lied under oath about their relationship and now she is resigning. Read the full article here.
A Florida teacher has been accused of having a sexual relationship with an 8th grade boy. Read the full article here.