Comments on: Pretending to Orgasm: Men Fake Too

By: Patty

Patty — Mon, 17 May 2010 05:37:01 +0000

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By: Patty

Patty — Mon, 17 May 2010 05:35:43 +0000

If you have to fake an orgasm for your partners satisfaction then maybe you shouldn't be with that person. I have never faked an orgasm and have no need to, if I cannot quite get there my husband understands and figures we'll just have to try again tomorrow!

By: Chris

Chris — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 23:06:22 +0000

I’ve faked an orgasm a few times. Either the difficulty would be a condom factor or if I tried to hold off for her orgasm and, in the process, made it only more difficult for me to have one. Another contributing factor may even be masturbation and breaking from that to allow someone else to help me come to an orgasm instead of only letting myself do it.

With my current girlfriend, I’ve been trying different condoms while trying to communicate more on how I like certain things (oral sex, handjobs, etc.). It’s really interesting when you actually have to think about how you like something as opposed to just breaking it down as “I like how she does it” or “I don’t like how she likes it.”

By: Chris

Chris — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 23:06:00 +0000

By: Becky

Becky — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 04:00:31 +0000

Hi,

I love your site-I just found it through Dan Savage’s link on his blog. I liked this post about men faking orgasms and in fact wrote on that topic recently, but didn’t have all the stats. Anyway, good luck.

By: Becky

Becky — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 04:00:00 +0000

Hi,

By: H

Fri, 30 Oct 2009 14:06:39 +0000

I think that a lot of it had to do with becoming more comfortable with my sexuality and also having a partner that didn’t want to just jump right into intercourse. I remember the first time I had an orgasm with him we were going really slow and I tilted my hips. Magic!

But another part of it was that I know enough about myself to realize that faking orgasms leads to resentment on my part, and that leads to no sex and a major rift in my relationships, and then the breakup. I could really see a future with my guy and I didn’t want that to happen to us.

By: H

Fri, 30 Oct 2009 14:06:00 +0000

By: Debby

Debby — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 12:48:31 +0000

@Rob How nice that you’re able to talk about that with partners! Was it difficult to bring up at first? Or how did it become more comfortable for you? I’m sure man men in your same situation would love a few pointers.

@H Amazing what the right situation/partner can do – as well as coming to a point where you just feel more comfortable/confident with your sexuality. What do you think the big turning point was for you?

By: Debby

Debby — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 12:48:00 +0000