Comments on: On Heartbreak, Loss and Sex http://www.mysexprofessor.com/love-and-relationships/on-heartbreak-loss-and-sex/ Sexuality education and sexual health information with Dr. Debby Herbenick Fri, 12 Mar 2010 14:00:05 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: P http://www.mysexprofessor.com/love-and-relationships/on-heartbreak-loss-and-sex/comment-page-1/#comment-4091 P Thu, 24 Sep 2009 04:57:34 +0000 http://www.mysexprofessor.com/?p=3211#comment-4091 Hi, I'm glad to have found your page. I am currently going through a time in my life that I had hoped would never come, but I knew would eventually. The death of my father/best friend. He hasn't passed yet, but he's had colon cancer for the past 3yrs and two months ago, the docs said there was nothing more they could do for him as he's become too weak for chemo. So each day goes by, and every time I see him, he seems to get weaker and weaker and has mentioned that he has lost his will. This breaks my heart from a thousand pieces into a million. Part of me doesn't want to see him suffer anymore, but the other part of me (the selfish part) wants him to be around for at least another 20yrs. I don't know what to do with all this "stuff"...I don't know where to put it. I have heard others talk about putting it in their "sex". The last thing I want to do when this happens is have sex. Can you explain to me why this happens? I've had this boyfriend now for the past 4 months now (so it's still relatively new) and he is quite supportive. However, he is a rather sexually charged individual and I can barely keep up with him on a good day. This being said, I know that once the inevitable happens, I won't want him to come near me...not even to cuddle (I'm not such a cuddly kind'a person). I'm expecting him to understand, but it may be quite the adjustment. One of the reasons I abstain from sex after a loved one passes, is (and this may sound stupid), but I believe in the afterlife and I believe that this person can see what I'm doing (told you it sounded stupid). Is there anything you can tell me to curb that notion? thank you for your help Hi,
I’m glad to have found your page. I am currently going through a time in my life that I had hoped would never come, but I knew would eventually. The death of my father/best friend. He hasn’t passed yet, but he’s had colon cancer for the past 3yrs and two months ago, the docs said there was nothing more they could do for him as he’s become too weak for chemo. So each day goes by, and every time I see him, he seems to get weaker and weaker and has mentioned that he has lost his will. This breaks my heart from a thousand pieces into a million.
Part of me doesn’t want to see him suffer anymore, but the other part of me (the selfish part) wants him to be around for at least another 20yrs. I don’t know what to do with all this “stuff”…I don’t know where to put it.
I have heard others talk about putting it in their “sex”. The last thing I want to do when this happens is have sex. Can you explain to me why this happens?
I’ve had this boyfriend now for the past 4 months now (so it’s still relatively new) and he is quite supportive. However, he is a rather sexually charged individual and I can barely keep up with him on a good day. This being said, I know that once the inevitable happens, I won’t want him to come near me…not even to cuddle (I’m not such a cuddly kind’a person). I’m expecting him to understand, but it may be quite the adjustment.
One of the reasons I abstain from sex after a loved one passes, is (and this may sound stupid), but I believe in the afterlife and I believe that this person can see what I’m doing (told you it sounded stupid). Is there anything you can tell me to curb that notion?

thank you for your help

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